Healing Narcissistic Abuse Trauma from Your Mother with Self-Compassion and Self-Empathy


Narcissistic abuse, especially when inflicted by a parent, can leave deep emotional scars that linger for a lifetime. The journey to healing from such trauma often starts with the powerful practices of self-compassion and self-empathy. In this blog, we will explore how these transformative tools can help you overcome the effects of narcissistic abuse from your mother and pave the way toward a healthier, more self-loving life.

Understanding Narcissistic Abuse:

Narcissistic abuse is a form of psychological and emotional manipulation in which a person with narcissistic traits or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) exploits and controls another individual for their own gain. When the abuser is your own mother, it can be especially painful, as this relationship is meant to be a source of love and nurturing.

The effects of narcissistic abuse can manifest in numerous ways, such as low self-esteem, self-doubt, anxiety, depression, and difficulty forming healthy relationships. Healing from this type of trauma can be a challenging process, but it is possible with the right tools and support.

Self-Empathy: Your First Step Towards Healing:

Self-Empathy is the practice of treating yourself with kindness, love, and understanding, even in the face of trauma. It involves acknowledging your pain and suffering without judgment. Here’s how to get started:

Self-Awareness: Recognize the impact of narcissistic abuse in your life. Understand that your feelings and experiences are valid.

Self-Love: Begin to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. Engage in self-care activities that bring you joy and relaxation.

Self-Kindness: Cultivate a compassionate inner dialogue. When negative thoughts or self-criticism arise, replace them with gentle and nurturing self-talk.

Self-Empathy: Connecting with Your Inner Child and begin to speak in a loving manner towards yourself.

Self-empathy is the process of connecting with your inner child—the part of you that experienced narcissistic abuse—and offering comfort and understanding. Here’s how to practice self-empathy: By saying something like I’m here for you regarding the invalidation you received from you mother, I’m ready to listen take all the time you need to heal.

Inner Child Visualization: Find a quiet space and close your eyes. Imagine your younger self, the one who endured the abuse. Picture them feeling scared or hurt. Hold that image in your mind.

Comfort Your Inner Child: Speak to your inner child with tenderness and compassion. Let them know that you are here for them now, that you love and accept them just as they are.

Reassure Your Inner Child: Explain to your inner child that the abuse was not their fault. Promise them that you are committed to healing and providing the love and support they needed and deserved.

Setting Boundaries and Seeking Support:

One crucial aspect of healing from narcissistic abuse is setting healthy boundaries to protect yourself from further harm. You may also find it beneficial to seek professional help from therapists, trauma coach or support groups specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery.

Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries with the narcissistic mother, limiting or eliminating contact if necessary. Your well-being should be your top priority.

Therapy and Support: Consider therapy or counseling to work through your trauma with a trained professional. Support groups can provide a safe space to share your experiences and gain valuable insights from others who have gone through similar situations.


Healing from narcissistic abuse inflicted by your mother is a journey of self-discovery and self-empowerment. By practicing self-compassion, connecting with your inner child through self-empathy, setting healthy boundaries, and seeking support, you can begin to break free from the grip of this traumatic experience. Remember that you are deserving of love, happiness, and a life free from the chains of narcissistic abuse. The path to healing is within reach, and you have the strength to overcome.

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